By When there are many people around and someone throws a huge ball at you, what can you do? You can catch the ball and keep holding it, or you can catch and drop the ball, or you can catch and throw the ball back. These are the three actions that you are likely to take. Yes? When you catch and continue to hold the ball, you are going to feel heavy. The longer you hold, the more it’s going to hurt you. When you hold and drop, it feels heavy momentarily, then sets right. Sometimes, you do throw it back and wantedly hurt the person who threw the ball at you. You will take action only when you feel that the ball is aimed at you, right?
Now the blame, bad-mouthing, and negative comments, that others speak about you are similar to someone throwing a ball at you. You have choices to make. You can take it seriously and keep lamenting about it for as long as you can. This is only going to hurt you. You can listen to it and forget it. Feel a bit annoyed and just move with your life. You can also give it back to them, get into unpleasant conversations with them, and hurt them the way they did to you.
Out of these three choices, the best one would be to drop it as soon as you hear it and move on with your own life. Holding it on is not good for you. Throwing it on their face and having a grudge, is not a good thing to do, and it will demean you. You don’t want to behave like them. That’s not you. They will eventually pay for it one day, and to punish them is not your job.
Here, I have a fourth choice. The wisest of all. Do not catch the ball. Move away. When will you catch a ball? When you feel that the ball is thrown for you. When you feel that this ball is not for you, you will just move away and allow the ball to fall down. Right? You will not even try to catch the ball that you feel is not for you. Don’t even claim the ball.
Just the same way, do not yield to anything that people throw at you that will take your confidence out or break you down. When you know, these people are capable only of mean things, what they deliver is not what you deserve, do not claim them. Get that it is not for you and walk away. Develop your strength to ignore and walk away. Don’t lose yourself. After all, that is what they expect, to switch you off. Don’t allow them to succeed in that. You don’t have to own any nonsense that people talk about you. You know who you are, and you don’t need their opinion. Don’t give your ears. It’s not for you. Just move out.
Next time you hear somebody talking mean about you, imagine the ball screaming at you, “Catch me not. I am not for you.”
See you in my next sharing. Until then, always stay connected, my divine souls. Much love.