By The entire world revolves around seeking love. This search starts as we are just kids and never ends even after we have grown old. Love makes you feel wanted and important. The relationship that we share with our parents is bonded by love. Are you receiving enough love from your parents? This question is often answered with NO. Don’t our parents love us? Yes, they do. Then why is there a gap? The gap is because what we receive and expect are different. Our parents express their love in whatever way they know and not in the way that we want.
Love has a language. Everyone has their own language. We speak only in a language that we know. Just like you can’t expect a person who knows only English to speak in French, you can’t expect people to show their love in ways they are unaware of. We can express love only in a way that we know. If love means kisses, we kiss our children, if it means hugs, we hug them, if it means kind words, we use them, if it simply means to sit by their side, we sit by their side, or it may be just cooking their favorite meal. If it means only to ensure they are on the right track, we always keep correcting them softly or with scolding.
Touch is the only expression of love for me, I always hold my daughters close to me, hugging and kissing them. Is that what love means to them? It may not be. Maybe in their world love might have a different meaning. However, I constantly make efforts to make them feel my love.
Since love in my dictionary is expressed by touch: holding hands, kissing, lying on the lap, slowly stroking my hair. My mother has neither touched me nor kissed me. So, I have always felt she doesn’t love me. All she does is keep correcting me and making me wrong, giving negative criticism that hurts. Little did I know as a child that scolding is also a language of love, it is translated as ‘I care for you,’ who else in this world truly cares about your welfare? All that I have learned from my mother in a seemingly hard way is what has made me stand unique today.
So, next time even if your mom or dad scolds you, know that, it is their spoken language of love.
See you in my next sharing. Until then, stay connected, my divine souls.