By My heart aches when I read about the suicides of young children at schools and colleges. There are many reasons for low marks, bullying, feeling worthless, and shameful about something. Underlying all this, there is an element of what others might think, what my parents might think, they will feel ashamed of me and fear seeking help to the extent that they don’t even open up to their parents.
As parents, we all love our children no matter what. The only thing precious to all of us is our children beyond everything else, no matter what they achieve or not, no matter what mistakes they make, no matter what happens to them, no matter in whatever trouble they land up with, knowingly or unknowingly.
But do we convey this to our children? Do you tell them that whatever might happen in the world, you are my treasure. I love you so much. You being with me makes my world. I am here to support you whatever may happen to you. You don’t have to feel shameful about anything. If anything bothers you, I am the first person you should come to. When you go wrong or get low scores, I may become wild, but that is not because I don’t like you. it’s because I care for you. So don’t hide anything from me because I might scold you. It’s quite natural that one may get angry and upset if things go wrong. But that does not mean that I am disappointed with you. You are my sunshine. There is nothing as safe as home. Come to me, my child, I am here for you and only for you. This message must clearly land to them as many times as possible in a way that your child gets connected.
Life is not as easy as it was in our times. There are many competitions, challenges, exposures, and distractions these days. Trouble comes in different directions and different forms. We can not do anything about it. The only safe place. is their family they can lean on their parents. They should feel free and secure with their parents to share whatever they want to.
Have a check on their behaviour. Reassure them if you find them upset about something. Encourage them to openly share their experience, good and bad, with you. Our children are too sensitive. We have to handle them with care. Please fill the gap.
See you in my next sharing. Until next time, stay connected, my divine souls!