By When I was a kid, we went to my aunt’s house during my vacation. In those days, there were no beds or separate rooms. The houses had one or two rooms, but big halls. It was in these halls that all of us used to sleep on the floor. Those days were so lovely and those times are so memorable. There would be a lot of talking and laughing as we fell asleep. Nowadays we want individual rooms for our kids. We want to give them privacy. But what comes with that privacy?
A few years back, one of my friend’s son was suspended from college. My friend shared that her teenage son had sent love letters through Facebook to his teacher at odd times, like 1 or 2 am. He had also mentioned to omit the spelling mistakes as he was severely drunk. He was hardly 17 or 18 years old then and was drinking alcohol in his own house to the extent of losing himself and the parents were not aware.
Constantly check what your children are doing, where they are going, where they spend their time, and what they watch. Advancing technology is a double-edged sword. Let’s responsibly teach them to use it for their growth and well-being. Children often choose the wrong paths when they are emotionally deprived. They should have a shoulder to lean on during their difficult times. Creating a healthy and friendly bond with children helps them to be more open with their parents. This makes them feel safe and protected.
In my house, there are certain rules. I have access to my daughters’ mailbox and social media accounts and so do they to my accounts. I stop using my mobile by 9 pm. My daughters follow the same. When they are in their room, I visit them now and then. I have found that living as an example, helps them to follow the rules without complaints.
It’s okay if your children have their rooms if you know what they are doing behind the doors.