By We keep throwing stuff into the dustbin. What will happen if we do not empty the dustbin frequently? It will start to stink. You cannot even go near it. You didn’t empty the dustbin just because you wanted it to stink. It was not your intention.
The hard feelings that we have for others are similar to filling the dustbin. If we keep accumulating bitter feelings for each other, then it will slowly strain the relationship. You cannot tolerate the other, even if they are your loved ones. The friction in the relationship increases and you will be forced to part ways and that is not your intention.
Mind is a bottomless container. You can hold so much beyond what you can imagine. As you keep digging, you will find that there would be layers and layers of negative emotions stored from your past experiences with the other person, that you wished you could have shared. It keeps pouring out endlessly. The longer it is covered up, the stronger would be the emotions when it bursts open. You would have wished that you had forgotten them. But your mind has captured them strongly and the more it stays there without expression, the more it intensifies.
Express your discomfort. You might think, expressing feelings and sharing your mind will be uncomfortable. Actually, as you start expressing yourself, you will find that it is much easier than you thought. Sort out the difference of opinions as and when it arises. Clear the air. Do not accumulate hatred, because one day you will be forced to walk away even if you didn’t want it.
Two minds don’t think alike. Therefore, in relationships, it is natural to have hiccups. What is important is to solve it then and there. Don’t pile your emotions and hatred. Let it flow out. The situation will seem cold, but it will clear your head from hatred. Your mind becomes clear and your relationship will stay healthy. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
If you do not let your mind speak, your hatred keeps accumulating to the point that it will bombard your relationship. So, empty the bin.
See you in my next sharing. Until then stay connected, my divine souls.